A New Beginning

I am writing this blog post from a porch in Norway overlooking a beautiful fjord. The skies are completely overcast – it has been a summer full of rain this year- but I am cozy and warm, drinking a glass of wine and listening to Mozart.

My website designer (Kristen TerSteeg) and photographer (Sydnee Bickett) have been so patient with me. {Check them out – they do great work!!} We began this website design quite some time ago with the intention to launch in the spring. They did their work (beautifully!) and then sat back to wait on me . . . and wait . . . and wait. They sent friendly reminders but I’d gotten overwhelmed with work and personal changes, and we put off the launch to July 28. I promised I would write content while on vacation so we could have everything ready on time.

So that’s why you find me writing on vacation in Norway! Although this site is new, it really is a revision. I’ve had a website for a number of years, well-done and professional. And I was ready for a change and a site that felt more reflective of who I am now – as a person and as a professional. My site will give you information about what I do and how to connect with me for speaking, therapy, and other work-related reasons. 

And this site will also give you more about me and from me personally. I used to work hard to keep personal and professional separate. I think I thought that was the way to create the “work-life balance.” Now I see that separation as impossible for me to accomplish, but also not really helpful or practical. So, I’ve given that up!

I’m much more interested in being an integrated person – engaging all aspects of myself, as all my aspects impact each other. I think they need to be seen together, not separately. I’m learning what this means . . . if you regularly visit this site, I guess you’ll be able to track my progress.

Seven years ago, I lived the summer in Kenya teaching, offering workshops on ambiguous loss and trauma, conducting research and getting to be in a beautiful country with beautiful people. A friend emailed me this poem because she thought it fit me. I hope it still fits. I give it to you – author unknown.

“I will not die an unlived life,

I will not live in fear

Of falling or catching on fire.

I choose to inhabit my days, 

To make me less afraid,

More accessible

To loosen my heart,

Until it becomes a wing,

A torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance,

To live so that which came to me as seed

Goes to the next as blossom,

And that which came to me as blossom,

Goes on as fruit.”