I'm reading a book by Natalie Goldberg, The Great Spring. Here's a great line about paying attention to our lives (p. 206) . . .
"If we can stand still and attentive in our lives and not run away, even right in the middle of the ruins, we will find fertile ground."
It's not easy to stand still and attentive especially when life is throwing us such painful stuff, but I think Natalie is right . . . there's ground there that we're standing on that offers us life.